Sometimes I find it interesting to sit back and observe people. Lately I've been taking notice of the interactions between men and women and physical attractions between them. I went out the other night with three other girls, all of who are very attractive. I've been friends with one of them for a long time and it always fascinates me to watch how guys react to her. She epitomises all that is stunning, long blonde hair, amazing body and fantastic smile. Guys stop and stare. It is so amusing to me when she walks through a crowd of people (men and women) and they part like the Red sea, just to stop and stare at her. She is oblivious to it! She is stunning both on the inside and outside, and it absolutely resonates from her.
I have quite a few friends like this, girls that create quite a stir when they enter a room. I love it! It is so interesting to see men turn to jelly at the mere sight of an attractive woman.
On the other hand, I find it even more interesting to be hanging out with guys when a girl they find attractive walks past. Most of the men I know are so obvious about staring at girls that I almost get embarrassed. One thing I have noticed is that it doesn't take much to make a guy look at a female. When I was younger, it was all about 'boobs' (this is the least offensive slang word for breasts that I could come up with) and cleavage. Now I'm noticing it is more about legs! Guys seem to love a short skirt with a high heels. (for the record, I'm a jeans girl, although I would love to be a skirt girl). I totally get the skirt thing, I think there is nothing sexier than a great pair of legs in a short skirt and some sensational heels!
One thing I have noticed with some guys (I say 'some' because I know guys who are a lot fussier)is that it doesn't really matter what kind of legs are wearing the skirt. I have been hanging out with guys who are going ga ga over girls wearing short skirts with legs that don't fit society's view (and probably my view) of great legs. I've noticed that girls in their early twenties are a lot more confident wearing shorter skirts, no matter what size they are, they still get the looks from the guys. When I've questioned the whole attraction to the skirts and the bare legs, I have been told that it is all about 'the possibility of easy access' (no explanation required!)!
Sexy is definitely an overall look! I've seen girls that I think are stunning but my male friends have simply said, 'yeh she is cute'! There is such a huge difference between cute and sexy. I think cute, can become sexy, but that comes with a guy actually getting to know a 'cute' girl.
I always remember a couple of years ago when a group of us were talking about how beautiful a model we knew was. All us girls were banging on about how stunning she was and when they asked one of the guys what he thought, his reply was 'nah she is too skinny'! The girls all accepted this as reasonable but when I got the guy alone I said 'c'mon are you really telling me you don't think she is attractive, you really think she is too skinny?'. His reply to me was 'no I think she is hot'! I find it interesting that his knee jerk reaction was to say she was too skinny because he knew that is what all other females like to hear!
Girls are funny creatures, with our make up, our waxing, our fake tans our clothes and our lingerie! Who are we really doing all this for? Not too long ago, one of my friends was wearing an absolutely stunning dress but it was below the knee and showed no cleavage. She looked sensational! When I commented on the dress she said, 'Yeh I'm dressing for the girls and not the boys tonight'! She later told me that not one guy commented on her outfit that night! (believe me she normally gets many comments!)Aren't men funny creatures?! I thought it was very sexy! When talking about this topic the other night with a different girlfriend, she said she always used to only dress for the guys. I never knew there was a difference (maybe why I'm still single-I say that tongue in cheek!)!!I've always dressed the way I like, but I know I definitely get comments on some things and no comments on other things I wear! I think it is great that women can be so in tune with stuff like this.
My mum has killer legs, she always has had (except for her varicose veins that she has had removed). In the sixties, she wore short skirts and looked HOT!!! Now she wears knee length skirts, but she still has the legs (unfortunately the only part of my mum's legs I inherited were the veins and blood clots, instead I got my Dad's short 'soccer legs'!). My Grandmother, also had great legs, and was still wearing heels at age 90!!!! I don't think she was wearing them to impress the men! I think we dress differently for different occassions but of course, we always have to feel great about what we are wearing.
I love fashion, as I've said before, i don't know how to dress for men, only for me but I do have to admit I would love to pull off the whole sexy thing although don't think it would really work for me (which is totally fine, I know I've got great fashion sense in my favour-at the risk of sounding arrogant). In the meantime I will continue to be amused by the men that turn into speechless fools at the sight of a sexy gal in a skirt! I love it and I think more power to the women who can do it, I think it is fabulous!!!!One of the sexiest things to see is when a girl can walk into a room and totally own it! Very impressive!
Until next time,
the last single 34yr old woman
